Archive | August, 2011

Corporate CoDriver: Why do any of us have to buy into this crap?

This past weekend, I went out to Southern California to co-drive for an old friend at the Gorman Ridge Rally.  Nothing unusual about this race from any other.   John Dillon was a novice driver, but a very experienced co-driver.  He’d been offered a car much like I was back in February when I drove the […]

Corporate CoDriver: Pass it on.

At a recent coaching session with a very talented IT client of mine (we’ll call her Marsha) she recounted a story to me about a particularly contentious negotiating (well, actually fault-finding) conversation she facilitated between a client of hers and her client’s client.

Moment of Clarity, August 2011: My Dad’s Three Rules of Life

Most of you are familiar with my position that we operate in life through the Knower/Judger rules and traditions gifted or cursed to us by our parents.

Robert Kiyosaki’s Rich Dad Poor Dad concept also works for Happy Dad, Sad Dad; Aggressive Dad, Passive Dad; Persecutor Dad, Victim Dad, etc. We grow up mirroring the environment that surrounds us.

A Tale of Two Dogs

From Volume 4, Issue 8:When we lost our family’s first dog 15 years ago, it was perfect timing. Youngest daughter is out of the nest, dog’s dead…we’re free! I lasted about 45 days, then went down to the Humane Society and adopted Beelzebub (Bubba for short), a near-pure black Lab and Gabriel (Gabby), a wound-up, wacko border collie–hound mix. These two spent the next 12 years as adoring brothers, roaming free in our front yard on a busy corner in our little town of Webster Groves, Missouri, and teaching a valuable lesson about the importance of knowing when to be in your Knower/Judger and when to be in your Learner/Researcher.

You Know the Type, but Do You Really?

From Volume 4 Issue 8We only have one opportunity to make a first impression, and sometimes we don’t even get that opportunity. Almost universally, we make judgments about people as soon as we meet them. Tall, short. Fat, skinny. Attractive, unattractive. Cool, uncool. Rich, poor. My kind, not my kind. Are the judgments you’re making getting in the way of your success?

Corporate CoDriver: Ships Passing in the Night

Friday I had a very busy day.  I worked out (as I try to do on a daily basis, but sometimes my Knower/Judger rules against it).  I met a client for a cup of coffee at the trendy Kaldi’s Coffee Shop in beautiful downtown Kirkwood, MO.  I had a lunch meeting with a prospective 3-2-1-GO […]

Managing uncomfortable processes…thrive or struggle. WANT is the answer.

I met one morning this week with a coaching client who is working very hard on managing the processes that will yield the results he wants. Typically we find these issues in the arena of sales. And that is the case here. But it works in just about everything we WANT to accomplish….golf skills, home […]

Corporate CoDriver: People Don’t Leave Companies….

Blog August 8th, 2011: Employees don’t leave their companies. They leave managers. Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman discovered that back in 1999 from the research they did for their groundbreaking book “First Break All the Rules”.

Corporate CoDriver: What’s the greatest cause of frustration? Expectations!

I was with clients this past weekend in a workshop setting.  And a point was made by the presenter that sometimes in order to get what we want we have to do some uncomfortable things.  (To find your prince charming sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs!). A fellow observer leaned over to […]

Corporate CoDriver: The Positive Power of NO

“NO” defines us…where we set the limits of how far we will go, how much pain we’ll endure, or how much we will spend….eventually we run into a “NO”. I’ve discovered that “NO” can come from many different emotional states. I can look at a situation that simply doesn’t look “right” to my definition of […]