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How Are Your Relation Ships?

From Volume 12, Issue 9:If your connection to another person were compared to ships, how would they be described? Consider the connections you have or have had or hope to have—this should be a fun exercise!

Can’t, Haven’t, Won’t

From Volume 12, Issue 8:In my coaching practice over the years, I’ve heard people say “I can’t” innumerable times. It’s frequently what gets the coaching process underway.

Drivers

From Volume 12, Issue 5: Drivers. Not the kind I co-drive for on rallies, or those that steer cars and push on the accelerator, but behavioral imperatives that constitute a great chunk of our knower/judger (K/J) rules. They create the challenges we experience in our relationships (and in our lives). Read on to identify specific drivers and how you can work with them to help yourself and others overcome them.

Settling

From Volume 12, Issue 6:Why do I settle for something that I don’t actually want?

On the subject of trust

From Volume 12, Issue 5:Trust is the basis of David Lencioni’s Five Dysfunctions of a Team. Without trust, teams perform at less than ideal levels trying to gain traction. And I’ve seen teams with high concentrations of trust perform at levels greater than the sum of their parts. I suspect you have as well.

The blessing and curse of stress

From Volume 12, Issue 4:Stress. We all feel it. It’s a deadline that seems impossible. Perhaps it’s a goal that’s slipping out of reach. Maybe it’s a relationship that’s changing, or just “change” itself. Job is gone. Money’s short. I’m overweight. The kids.

Operationally, we understand stress as a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.

Clarity (After all, the title of this monthly missive is HDClarity!)

From Volume 12, Issue 3:When I sought out a standard definition of “clarity” or “clear,” I found synonyms like “coherent,” “intelligible,” “transparent,” and “pure.” Pretty understandable, right?

I suppose these synonyms work for a good general explanation of what clear means. But, I actually find them a little… unclear.

Intimacy. It’s not just for Valentine’s Day anymore…

From Volume 12, Issue 2:Mention the word “intimacy” and a lot of pictures come to mind. They usually involve two people between the sheets (hereinafter referred to as BTS), getting to know everything about each other.

As this Valentine’s season comes and goes, I’d like to expand the concept to include everyday relationships.

Joy or Despondency?

From Volume 12, Issue 1:It’s a continuum really, isn’t it? On one end is joy, which is associated with happiness, calm, fun, smiles, peace, confidence, enthusiasm, lack of stress, breaths of fresh air, and lightness. On the other end is despondency, whose henchmen are fear, stress, worry, darkness, fights, drama, frowns, terror, self-doubt, heaviness, and choking.

Savor the moment

From Volume 12, Issue 1: “Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.” This quote, oft used by productivity guru and Seven Habits author Steven Covey, are actually the words of Viktor Frankl.