Resolve to Not Resolve
by From Volume 16, Issue 1:So your New Years’ resolution didn’t work? Want to know why?
There are two schools of thought about how we act in such situations.
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The Value of Clarity
From Volume 15, Issue 1: It’s been almost 20 years since I assembled the team that wrote the book, The Positive Power of NO. At the time there were dozens of books on the subject of YES: Getting to YES, Yes is the Answer, etc. I had gathered a half dozen of my fellow business consultants and asked if they found themselves counseling their clients to reign in the “you can do it” mantra and start to set limits. In other words, figuring out what to say no to.
A Shout-Out to Doubt
From Volume 11, Issue 1:Doubt gets a bad rap.
It is often associated with indecision, hesitancy, uncertainty, and other human foibles that signal less-than-adequate preparation. Doubt is often seen as an impediment to moving forward, getting the job done, and following through. All usually highly appreciated accomplishments.
Be your own best observer
From Volume 15, Issue 9: Have you ever seen yourself? In my experience it doesn’t happen very often; but every once in a while I catch myself behaving in some embarrassing, or emotional, or offensive way.
Coach or advisor? Is there a difference?
From Volume 15, Issue 9:Sometimes when being approached by a prospective new project, I’m not sure the person I’m interviewing (or who’s interviewing me) sees or understands the difference between a coach or advisor. I’ll try to explain that here.
What do you want?
From Volume 15, Issue 7: What do you want?
Easy question, right? I want a new car. I want to earn twice what I earn now. I want to travel to Europe. The list goes on ad infinitum. And trudging on day after day, maybe year after year, without acquiring these wants can by quite depressing. Clients I’ve worked with have expressed questions of identity and self-worth because they hadn’t yet acquired one or more items on their list.
In the absence of a smile
From Volume 15, Issue 6:Over a decade ago, I penned an article praising the value of a heartfelt joyful smile. To summarize, it spoke to the virtual impossibility of “faking” a real smile.
Road Rage in the Boardroom
From Volume 15, Issue 5:Road Rage in the Boardroom… or the shop floor, or the accounting office, or the basketball court.
Road rage is defined as aggressive or violent behavior stemming from a driver’s uncontrolled anger at the actions of another motorist. (www.DMV.org).
Replace “driver” and “motorist” with “person” and suddenly you find examples of
rage in a lot of diverse environments.
Intentionality
From Volume 15, Issue 4:Intention (noun):
1. the fact or quality of being done on purpose or with intent: The author’s choice here may not have been intentionally racially charged, but discrimination and prejudice are often not rooted in intentionality.
2. an attitude of purposefulness, with a commitment to deliberate action: “Active hope” is a practice that does not require optimism; instead, it requires intentionality.
There’s more to the K/J vs L/R
From Volume 15, Issue 3:Knower/Judger vs Learner/Researcher: Part 2
Last month I used the terms “role” and “soul” to help clarify the difference between being in my K/J state and my L/R state. My “role” is the life script I’m executing, with all its goals and achievements that I can feel good or bad about hitting or not hitting. My “soul” are the untethered “think-out-of-the-box” parts of me that live in my thoughts and dreams… and sometimes run afoul of my role(s).