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Why do we always seem to focus on mistakes?

by KimDecember 29, 2021

From Volume 14, Issue 12:One day a school teacher wrote the following on the chalk board:
9 × 1 = 7
9 × 2 = 18
9 × 3 = 27
9 × 4 = 36
9 × 5 = 45
9 × 6 = 54
9 × 7 = 63
9 × 8 = 72
9 × 9 = 81
9 × 10 = 90
When she was done, she looked to the students, who were all laughing at her because her first equation was wrong. She was trying to demonstrate how the world rarely rewards you for all the hundreds and hundreds (in this case nine) correct answers you have but instead focuses freely on your errors. This is one of the clearest examples of the Knower/Judger in operation.

Four Faces of NO

by KimNovember 17, 2021November 17, 2021

From Volume 14, Issue 11:Many years ago I and an intrepid team of business consultants penned the book The Positive Power of NO: How that little word you love to hate can make or break your business.
Since that time some 18 years ago, I’ve been awakened to some nuances about the use of the word.

Kind of …..

by KimOctober 21, 2021October 21, 2021

From Volume 14, Issue 10:I’m struck this week with a barrage of “kindness” stories. The word has been popping up throughout my world like a “message,” so I thought I’d run with it.

This famous saying of Dr. Wayne Dyer is a favorite of mine: “If you have a choice between being right and being kind, choose kind.”

Habits (good or bad) display as addictions.

by KimSeptember 22, 2021September 20, 2021

From Volume 14, Issue 9: If you’ve ever been (or still are) a smoker, then you understand how some habits are hard to break. I guess, when you look at it, ALL habits are hard to break, right?

Actions Have Consequences

by KimJune 16, 2021June 16, 2021

From Volume 14, Issue 6:I can still recall my dad admonishing me that my actions (and, indeed, anyone’s) were always associated with consequences.

I left my bike outside one night and it was missing the next morning. It was recovered by the local police—I still think it was a lesson my Dad arranged—but I did operate differently after that.

Life and MLB strike zones are not fair.

by KimMay 19, 2021May 19, 2021

From Volume 14, Issue 5: If you’re a baseball fan and watch Major League Baseball games on TV, you’ve seen the overlaid strike-zone box at the plate that indicates to the viewer where the “strike zone” is for that batter. If the ball is within the rectangle, then it’s assumed to be a strike. Outside? It’s a ball. Pretty simple, huh?

Own it!

by KimMarch 24, 2021March 23, 2021

From Volume 14, Issue 3:Everybody’s entitled to their opinion, right?

Clariy

by KimFebruary 17, 2021February 17, 2021

From Volume 14, Issue 2:It’s a pretty overused term: clarity. So I thought I’d put my thoughts on my byword in one of these monthly missives.

The new, new, new normal

by KimDecember 17, 2020

From Volume 13, Issue 12:I hear a lot lately about the “new normal.” This medical crisis that has enveloped the world has caused almost everybody to alter their modus operandi.

Narratives

by KimAugust 19, 2020August 19, 2020

From Volume 13, Issue 8:A narrative is a story, right? And I believe we tend to use stories to describe things.

Sometimes it’s things that have happened to us and sometimes it’s things that have happened to others. Sometimes our narratives are developed from personal experience, and sometimes they are inherited from others who influence us, like our parents, teachers, coaches, spiritual advisers, etc. Sometimes these narratives even come unsolicited from the world around us: through news media, social media, books, and articles we read.