Tag Archives: Expectation

Hunger Games

From Volume 8, Issue 3:Finding happiness can be easier than you think

“How on earth did you overcome a three-touchdown deficit with only seven minutes to play, coach?” the sportscaster asked. After a thoughtful moment, the coach replied, “I guess my guys just wanted it more.”

Why do we want what we want? How come some wants or desires are less motivating than others? It all comes down to whether we’re playing our own version of the hunger games, and playing for happiness rather than satisfaction.

Trust vs. Trust but Verify

From Volume 7, Issue 3:Trust: the belief that someone or something is reliable, good, honest, effective, etc.

Trust but verify, Доверяй, но проверяй (doveryai, no proveryai) is actually Russian in origin, although it is remembered as President Ronald Reagan’s modus operandi during the last days of the Cold War.

If I operate on trust but verify, do I trust? Exploring the difference between trust and verification can help you stop wasting time and energy in relationships at work and at home.

Learning from My Mistakes: A Surprising Lesson

From Volume 6, Issue 12:If we learn from our mistakes, then I’m working on my third PhD. The last month has been a rush for me. I host this annual Christmas party, and my Knower/Judger usually gets me into some kind of project that just has to be completed before the first guest arrives. And they’re usually not small projects. This year, I did it again. The difference is, I finally learned something

Moment of Clarity: March, 2013, Hammer to the finger!

Corporate CoDriver: The Nature of Impatience

My mentor, Jut Meininger worked diligently the last several years of his life to get me to just give up the concept of “expecting”.   Sure, we can want people to be different than they are.  We can want them to be thoughtful when they’re not.  We can want them to do what they agree to […]

Corporate CoDriver: What’s the greatest cause of frustration? Expectations!

I was with clients this past weekend in a workshop setting.  And a point was made by the presenter that sometimes in order to get what we want we have to do some uncomfortable things.  (To find your prince charming sometimes you have to kiss a lot of frogs!). A fellow observer leaned over to […]