From Volume 13, Issue 12:I hear a lot lately about the “new normal.” This medical crisis that has enveloped the world has caused almost everybody to alter their modus operandi.
From Volume 13, Issue 3:Do you like being angry? Is that what you really want? I know I don’t. How about insecure? Frustrated? Jealous? Guilty? At the risk of sounding cavalier about it, why don’t you just change that feeling?
From Volume 12, Issue 11: Here we go again—it’s November already! Where did the year go?!
We have that lineup of annual no-holds-barred holidays facing us like a gauntlet ready to mete out seasonal punishment in two-months-long serial order.
From Volume 12, Issue 4:Stress. We all feel it. It’s a deadline that seems impossible. Perhaps it’s a goal that’s slipping out of reach. Maybe it’s a relationship that’s changing, or just “change” itself. Job is gone. Money’s short. I’m overweight. The kids.
Operationally, we understand stress as a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse or very demanding circumstances.
From Volume 12, Issue 2:Mention the word “intimacy” and a lot of pictures come to mind. They usually involve two people between the sheets (hereinafter referred to as BTS), getting to know everything about each other.
As this Valentine’s season comes and goes, I’d like to expand the concept to include everyday relationships.
From Volume 11, Issue 11:At the beginning of just about every coaching engagement I’ve had over the last 15 or more years, I’ve asked, “What do you want?”. And it’s pretty universally a very difficult question to answer honestly.
From Volume 11, Issue 10:Times come when we need someone to understand what’s expected of them—in the moment, over a period of time, or over a lifetime. Recognizing that expectations are the foundation of frustration, how can we minimize that emotional kickback when we have to get the point across?
From Volume 11, Issue 3:What makes you angry? Politics? Bad manners? Erratic driving? Poor service?
And why, when so triggered, do you express the emotion anger?
Psychologist Gail Brenner, whom I’ve been reading lately, has dived deeply into this emotion, and it ties in with the nomenclature I’ve been using to describe reactive behaviors in this newsletter. Anger exists in the Knower/Judger. It’s learned.