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Bad Turns to Good with UPR

by KimJanuary 18, 2012

From Volume 5, Issue 1:Remember the story of Dr. Hew Len at the psychiatric hospital in Hawaii? He used the Ho’oponopono affirmation each time he came into contact with an inmate: “I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.” The results were impressive. The concept is based on the idea that we are responsible for everything and everyone, creating “bad” and “good” people and situations out of our (flawed and incomplete) Knower/Judger concepts. But over the past eight years, I’ve coached many leaders, executives, and family guys who have had a hard time even thinking “I love you” while approaching an arrogant boss. So let’s modify this highly effective tactic to make it more palatable.

Who Loves Ya

by KimDecember 21, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 11In the chick flick Eat, Pray, Love, Julia Roberts’ character (a confused middle-aged woman looking for something that I never quite figured out) tells Javier Bardem’s character, “I don’t have to love you to prove I love myself.” At this point in the movie, most reviewers poked a finger down their throats and gagged, but I found a usable message that we can all use to improve the relationships with the people we love.

Surviving the Season

by KimDecember 21, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 11:In this season where we all try to get along, we all try to love each other, we all try to tolerate our visiting relatives, I offer this survival technique: Work On Wondering, or WOW.

Occupy This!

by KimNovember 16, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 11:“Men feared witches and burnt women. It is the function of speech to free men from the bondage of irrational fears.” — U.S. Supreme Court Justice Louis D. Brandeis (1856–1941), Whitney v. California, 274 U. S. 357 (1927)

Giving Voice

by KimNovember 16, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 11:It’s not what you say. It’s how you say it. And there are five ways to do it.

Taking the High Road

by KimOctober 19, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 10:My client Lawrence said something interesting the other day. I was talking to him about the tendency we have to operate from our Knower/Judgers because it’s easier and safer, and usually takes care of our immediate emotional needs. “Yes,” said Lawrence, “But that’s not taking the high road.”

Someone Left the Cake Out in the Rain

by KimOctober 19, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 10:As I write this, hundreds, if not thousands, of U.S. citizens are voicing their displeasure about conditions—mostly economic—by “occupying” Wall Street and other iconic sites. This action appears to be a manifestation of a growing frustration with how things have changed since the economic meltdown of 2008.

9/11 – Loving What Is

by KimSeptember 21, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 9:Ten years ago, some people who didn’t like the United States of America and what it stands for hijacked airplanes and caused havoc.

I’m so Pissed

by KimSeptember 21, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 9:Ever have one of those days, when it seems the universe has it in for you?

A Tale of Two Dogs

by KimAugust 17, 2011February 17, 2022

From Volume 4, Issue 8:When we lost our family’s first dog 15 years ago, it was perfect timing. Youngest daughter is out of the nest, dog’s dead…we’re free! I lasted about 45 days, then went down to the Humane Society and adopted Beelzebub (Bubba for short), a near-pure black Lab and Gabriel (Gabby), a wound-up, wacko border collie–hound mix. These two spent the next 12 years as adoring brothers, roaming free in our front yard on a busy corner in our little town of Webster Groves, Missouri, and teaching a valuable lesson about the importance of knowing when to be in your Knower/Judger and when to be in your Learner/Researcher.