HDClarity – Page 5

Bad Turns to Good with UPR

by KimJanuary 18, 2012

From Volume 5, Issue 1:Remember the story of Dr. Hew Len at the psychiatric hospital in Hawaii? He used the Ho’oponopono affirmation each time he came into contact with an inmate: “I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.” The results were impressive. The concept is based on the idea that we are responsible for everything and everyone, creating “bad” and “good” people and situations out of our (flawed and incomplete) Knower/Judger concepts. But over the past eight years, I’ve coached many leaders, executives, and family guys who have had a hard time even thinking “I love you” while approaching an arrogant boss. So let’s modify this highly effective tactic to make it more palatable.

Who Loves Ya

by KimDecember 21, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 11In the chick flick Eat, Pray, Love, Julia Roberts’ character (a confused middle-aged woman looking for something that I never quite figured out) tells Javier Bardem’s character, “I don’t have to love you to prove I love myself.” At this point in the movie, most reviewers poked a finger down their throats and gagged, but I found a usable message that we can all use to improve the relationships with the people we love.

Surviving the Season

by KimDecember 21, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 11:In this season where we all try to get along, we all try to love each other, we all try to tolerate our visiting relatives, I offer this survival technique: Work On Wondering, or WOW.

Moment of Clarity December 2011, Anticipation

by KimDecember 21, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 12 This is the time of year when anticipation runs rampant. Kids expect Santa to supply them with everything they see on TV. We expect warmth and humility from assembled and compressed families….World Peace wouldn’t be all bad either. This month’s Moment of Clarity puts anticipation in perspective with results. Managing expectations can be the key to reducing frustration and friction,

Occupy This!

by KimNovember 16, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 11:“Men feared witches and burnt women. It is the function of speech to free men from the bondage of irrational fears.” — U.S. Supreme Court Justice Louis D. Brandeis (1856–1941), Whitney v. California, 274 U. S. 357 (1927)

Giving Voice

by KimNovember 16, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 11:It’s not what you say. It’s how you say it. And there are five ways to do it.

Moment of Clarity, November 2011: Don’t Confuse Me With Facts, My Mind’s Made Up

by KimNovember 16, 2011

Taking the High Road

by KimOctober 19, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 10:My client Lawrence said something interesting the other day. I was talking to him about the tendency we have to operate from our Knower/Judgers because it’s easier and safer, and usually takes care of our immediate emotional needs. “Yes,” said Lawrence, “But that’s not taking the high road.”

Moment of Clarity, October 2011, At the ol’ ballgame

by KimOctober 19, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 10:“Every year, and every round of the playoffs,” he said, “there’s distractions all around. It can go from family stuff, clubhouse stuff, opponents, friendships, whatever it is. If you can’t eliminate that on your day, you’re going to have extra trouble.” Chris Carpenter

Someone Left the Cake Out in the Rain

by KimOctober 19, 2011

From Volume 4, Issue 10:As I write this, hundreds, if not thousands, of U.S. citizens are voicing their displeasure about conditions—mostly economic—by “occupying” Wall Street and other iconic sites. This action appears to be a manifestation of a growing frustration with how things have changed since the economic meltdown of 2008.