From Volume 15, Issue 9:Sometimes when being approached by a prospective new project, I’m not sure the person I’m interviewing (or who’s interviewing me) sees or understands the difference between a coach or advisor. I’ll try to explain that here.
From Volume 15, Issue 7: What do you want?
Easy question, right? I want a new car. I want to earn twice what I earn now. I want to travel to Europe. The list goes on ad infinitum. And trudging on day after day, maybe year after year, without acquiring these wants can by quite depressing. Clients I’ve worked with have expressed questions of identity and self-worth because they hadn’t yet acquired one or more items on their list.
From Volume 15, Issue 6:Over a decade ago, I penned an article praising the value of a heartfelt joyful smile. To summarize, it spoke to the virtual impossibility of “faking” a real smile.
From Volume 15, Issue 5:Road Rage in the Boardroom… or the shop floor, or the accounting office, or the basketball court.
Road rage is defined as aggressive or violent behavior stemming from a driver’s uncontrolled anger at the actions of another motorist. (www.DMV.org).
Replace “driver” and “motorist” with “person” and suddenly you find examples of
rage in a lot of diverse environments.
From Volume 15, Issue 4:Intention (noun):
1. the fact or quality of being done on purpose or with intent: The author’s choice here may not have been intentionally racially charged, but discrimination and prejudice are often not rooted in intentionality.
2. an attitude of purposefulness, with a commitment to deliberate action: “Active hope” is a practice that does not require optimism; instead, it requires intentionality.
From Volume 15, Issue 3:Knower/Judger vs Learner/Researcher: Part 2
Last month I used the terms “role” and “soul” to help clarify the difference between being in my K/J state and my L/R state. My “role” is the life script I’m executing, with all its goals and achievements that I can feel good or bad about hitting or not hitting. My “soul” are the untethered “think-out-of-the-box” parts of me that live in my thoughts and dreams… and sometimes run afoul of my role(s).
From Volume 15, Issue 2:Over the years, I’ve used the phrase “Knower/Judger” (or K/J) to describe a classification of behaviors rooted in, and learned from, our history and traditions. I’ve also used the phrase Learner/Researcher (or L/R) to describe us when we set judgement aside and open learned narratives (knowledge) to other interpretations. You can click on either of those phrases above to see deeper definitions.
From Volume 14, Issue 12:One day a school teacher wrote the following on the chalk board:
9 × 1 = 7
9 × 2 = 18
9 × 3 = 27
9 × 4 = 36
9 × 5 = 45
9 × 6 = 54
9 × 7 = 63
9 × 8 = 72
9 × 9 = 81
9 × 10 = 90
When she was done, she looked to the students, who were all laughing at her because her first equation was wrong. She was trying to demonstrate how the world rarely rewards you for all the hundreds and hundreds (in this case nine) correct answers you have but instead focuses freely on your errors. This is one of the clearest examples of the Knower/Judger in operation.
From Volume 14, Issue 11:Many years ago I and an intrepid team of business consultants penned the book The Positive Power of NO: How that little word you love to hate can make or break your business.
Since that time some 18 years ago, I’ve been awakened to some nuances about the use of the word.
From Volume 14, Issue 10:I’m struck this week with a barrage of “kindness” stories. The word has been popping up throughout my world like a “message,” so I thought I’d run with it.
This famous saying of Dr. Wayne Dyer is a favorite of mine: “If you have a choice between being right and being kind, choose kind.”
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